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It is often said (mostly by women) that the number of gentlemen in the society is fast depleting. In times past, a gentleman was much appreciated and being gentle-manly was a noble thing. However, things have changed in todays society; some for the better and some for the worse. Yet, guys need to remember that some basic good manners will go a long way in helping them in their ascent to the top.
GENERAL ETIQUETTE
Always be polite : Even if you dont like someone, there is no need to lower yourself to their level. Be polite and courteous; show that youre the better man.
Do not curse : Swearing is a big no-no. It shows that you dont have the vocabulary to express your thoughts appropriately. Furthermore, it is always very crude and impolite to be vulgar.
Do not speak loudly : When you speak loudly, it raises the stress level among company. It always implies that you cant reason with people and rely on "brute force" to get your point across. It also draws attention-negative attention.
Do not lose your temper : When you lose your temper, you are showing everyone that you cant control your emotions. If you cant even control yourself, then how can you possibly control anything else? Keep your cool at all times (it wont be easy but it is worth the effort) and people will take positive note of your level-headedness.
Do not stare : Ogling at someone is the equivalent of psychological aggression. You dont want to intimidate people for no reason.
Do not interrupt : Let people finish what they are saying before adding your comments. Interrupting others is a sign of poor etiquette and a lack of social skills. If you want to come across as egotistical, you can do so by constantly interrupting.
Do not spit : A lot of men do this almost subconsciously. Spitting is very crude and not too pretty to look at. Do not spit in public unless you want to look like you were raised in a sewer.
Do not laugh at others mistakes : This is perhaps one of the cruelest things one can do. When you mess up, the last thing you want is for someone not only to bring it to your attention, but to ridicule you on top of that.
Wait for seating before eating : When sitting down for a meal, you should wait until all the guests are properly seated and ready to commence the meal before eating. Everyone should start dining at the same time; this is a subtle but very important rule.
ON CHIVALRY
In addition to the aforementioned rules, gentlemen should follow these additional rules when in the presence of a lady. Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to come.
Always open doors : This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or any place with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
Help with her seat : If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course. And if a lady arrives and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.
Give her your arm : When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground-especially if the lady with you is wearing high heels.
Ask if she needs anything : This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman all the same. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink. Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.
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